[madderthanafish]

Howdo all.

I don't know if anyone has any thoughts or advice about this one but I would think there will be one or two on here who've been through this.

The wife has recently decided that she is leaving me after almost 16 years. She hasn't given me what I can see as a sensible reason for her decision and she refuses to try and work it out. I've come to terms with it all but I have a bigger problem. As she took care of all the finances, (and I was quite happy to let her), I had very little idea what was happening other than whenever I asked how the credit card bills were doing, she would say: "they're coming down". When it all comes out in the wash, we are seriously in debt. By serious, I mean at least 4 rebreathers worth!!! The debt is, to be honest, not all her fault. I used the cards as much as she did, I just didn't know how bad it had got. I know that sounds mighty naieve but it's sadly true. If I had known, I'd have cut the b*****d things up a long time ago!

As she's moving out, it means I'm homeless as well as we live in tied accomodation that goes with our job. Fortunately, the people I work for are keeping me on and I can live in my campervan. The problems are 1. a lack of space and 2. a f*****g great debt to pay off! Some folk have advised me to sell as much as I can and pay the debts as quick as poss, others have said keep some stuff so that at least I get out ocassionally. I've got all my own dive kit, a small-ish dive boat, loads of related "toys"and it's all in superb condition having been extremely well looked after. I'm sure it would knock a couple of months off my bills if I sold it all.

I'm not after sympathy, by the way. I'm all done with emotion at the moment and just focusing on practicalities. If anyone who's been through this has any thoughts, I'd much appreciate hearing them.

Thanks in advance.