Stalking on the Internet

[Gareth Burrows]

Originally Posted by wilbo

yoohoo

uhoh

/scared

[wilbo]

Originally Posted by Garf

uhoh

/scared

you have a message on yer dog.. gimme a ring..

[hogen-deifar]

Originally Posted by Helen F H

There is a person on here who systematically read everything I post. I found out by accident after viewing who was online and noticing they did this.

Hi *waves* i know you will read this at some point too

Personally I'd take that as a compliment, not stalking! You're a fantastic writer and you tend to write good amusing things (and no, it's not me who follows you!!!) so I can understand why someone would want to read everything you write! Especially after your rescue story.

My ex, who introduced me to diving and YD, used to hang off your every word. God, all he did was talk about "Porg this, Porg that, Porg's had something published in Diver Magazine". You were all he talked about!!! This was all before I came in to YD. He's now an ex, but still comes on line occasionally, so probably won't appreciate me writing this. Hey ho.

I think it's flattering that they want to read your words! I find myself reading some peoples comments more than others because some people talk a lot more sense than others, and you're one of them!

God, now I sound like your stalker! I'm not, Helen! I promise!!!

[Ahmed Adly]

Hi Paul,

Stalking, I understand, comes out of: inappropriate jealousy, Spite, vengefulness and of course just plain and simply prickness.
All of these virtues are bad and only serve to show how nasty the stalker is and in the end, if your friends blame you, then they are as bad as the stalker and you are better off without them anyway!

Now out on the street, one may have reason to be scared, but a cyberstalker is just a bloody coward and I think no one has ANYTHING to worry about.

My most recent experience was the funniest actually! I was stalked and bullied by a moderator/owner of a web forum  I mean that is like the ultimate stalker! This was a jealousy bound stalking.

I guess I am not much help to you or others. But since today is a charitable day I am offering this comfort in hope it could be of use to you.

[Paul Evans]

Originally Posted by Ahmed Adly

Hi Paul,

Stalking, I understand, comes out of: inappropriate jealousy, Spite, vengefulness and of course just plain and simply prickness.
All of these virtues are bad and only serve to show how nasty the stalker is and in the end, if your friends blame you, then they are as bad as the stalker and you are better off without them anyway!

Now out on the street, one may have reason to be scared, but a cyberstalker is just a bloody coward and I think no one has ANYTHING to worry about.

My most recent experience was the funniest actually! I was stalked and bullied by a moderator/owner of a web forum  I mean that is like the ultimate stalker! This was a jealousy bound stalking.

I guess I am not much help to you or others. But since today is a charitable day I am offering this comfort in hope it could be of use to you.

This is a long shoot.......Did we meet on the Diver's lodge boat last year? You DIR?........

Prorbably a different person, but I find the world gets amaller every day?

[Scubee]

It depends why someone is reading all your words, Helen. If *he* (sorry, i am making an assumption) is interested, as hagen das suggests, then great, no problem, but I have heard of one or two instances on here when it wasn't as geinuine and innocent as that.

I don't know if anyone reads my with a stalker view, but if they do and if it makes them happy, fine. Sad (because most of them are shite), but fine.

There are people on YD whose posts I always read, usually because I know they will make me laugh

[dry suit diver]

Originally Posted by Sixsquid

Same here I have been on the receiving end of the unpleasantness Scubee mentions above and stalking by an ex (although the forum stalking turned out to be the least of my worries from him!) It is a violation and very damaging.

I too am ever vigilant about my name appearing on the net and, coincidentally, have just PM'd someone asking them to change a reference to my real name in a post. Mal is always wonderful though and usually spots it before me and changes it Top moderation on YD and little extras like that too

I gather there are legal steps you can take but proving is difficult and the police will not/cannot invest the time and money

would this be what you were talking about on saturday afternoon? geezer was a nutter I think. imaginary conversations with himself.

[ShinyD]

I didn't realise some people had issues with this kind of thing. I understand now the reluctance for real names to appear in posts...I'll bear it in mind in the future when writing, although I don't think I've 'outed' someone I shouldn't in the past!

I have a stalker too, but I think that's something to do with the fact I married her 10 years ago (sorry Ann )

[fishyheid]

The whole cyber stalking thing can be quite serious. Some people I know on a large military forum had a huge issue with someone a few years back and the police were called. The lady concerned went as far as writing to the guy's CO and telling him what an awful man he was (he may well be).

I moderate on mil-type forum and breaches of security of an operational nature are rare and dealt with swiftly, but some people don'e seem to care what they give away about themselves. A healthy shot across the bows is usually enough to remind people that the world can read what they publish.

I have always been mildly careful with my ID and on things like Facebook, I am very careful about what I release (and have a habit of telling my mates to sort out their security - name address and phone number in one case )

[hogen-deifar]

Originally Posted by ShinyD

I didn't realise some people had issues with this kind of thing. I understand now the reluctance for real names to appear in posts...I'll bear it in mind in the future when writing, although I don't think I've 'outed' someone I shouldn't in the past!

I have a stalker too, but I think that's something to do with the fact I married her 10 years ago (sorry Ann )

I'm gonna tell her you said that!!!!!!! Your credit card's gonna get another bashing for that one, me thinks!