Advice please women are probably the best to answer

[Clare Gledhill]

Originally Posted by Sparky750

If she says no the ring is going back and i'm off to buy a YBOD with the proceeds

Originally Posted by Scuttler

It's not too late.....you don't have to throw your life away at such a tender age.

Good luck - whatever the outcome

[rustferret]

A word of advice from a farther who’s daughter got engaged lest year, to be married next year.
ASK HER FARTHER FOR HER HAND IN MARRAGE. (can be before or after you ask her) Call me old fashioned but you will get shit loads of brownie points with your in laws to be.
Good luck hope she says yes.
Rustferret

[dry suit diver]

Originally Posted by rustferret

A word of advice from a farther who’s daughter got engaged lest year, to be married next year.
ASK HER FARTHER FOR HER HAND IN MARRAGE. (can be before or after you ask her) Call me old fashioned but you will get shit loads of brownie points with your in laws to be.
Good luck hope she says yes.
Rustferret

agreed thats why he thought I was a top bloke.

her mum still won't have SWMBO say anything abd about me

[JasonP]

Originally Posted by Madfish

buy her a plain black t-shirt from Primark

I never thought I'd ever see you post that.

Jason

[Steve Summers]

I'd have thought the ring and the reason behind it would be enough, so save your money

Good luck and congratulations

Safe diving,
Steve

[yazzyfooty]

Awww Steve you could have asked me and I would have helped you pick a prezzie and you could have still bought your YBOD. Can you take the wrong kind of shiney back to the shop and we can then go on a spending spree at Brett's.............which would be more enjoyable. And for me saving you from a possible life of misery you can buy me a decent torch with your savings

[frosty the snowman]

Hello there, Dr Frosty here.

Well as you may know, when it comes to birds, common sense rarely applies. It's sensible to give her the ring on her birthday because for some reason as yet undetermined by science, they get all upset when you (inevitably) forget engagement anniversaries. I would get a small present too such as an iron or some marigold gloves to emphasise her forthcoming areas of responsibility.

Finally, the prenuptual agreement. You must ensure that in the event of her having a hissy fit, you still get to keep all your toys and are entitled to your conjugal rights until the decree absolute comes through. I trust that helps.

[Frankie Price]

Originally Posted by Sparky750

Ok so my GF is 30 on tuesday and i've decided after 5 years with me it's time to do the honourable thing and ask her to marry me so i've just bought the ring (could have bought so much diving kit with that money) my question is i was thinking about asking her on her birthday do i still need to buy her a present or is the ring enough and when is a good time to ask about prenuptials

A good idea to ask her on her birthday both from a cost point of view (just one pressie) and also for rembering the occasion.
If she says yes, then why not plan to marry her on her birthday as well and bingo, job sorted full house.

[annatrnr]

Originally Posted by rustferret

ASK HER FARTHER FOR HER HAND IN MARRAGE. (can be before or after you ask her) Call me old fashioned but you will get shit loads of brownie points with your in laws to be.Rustferret

Actually I wouldn't say I agree with Rusty on some things but on this he is totally right. It show respect and if she is close to her family it will earn you bp with her too. Good luck!!!!!!!!!!! Please post an answer ASAP we will all be waiting to know. (ps I am with the small funny present brigade)

[Big Kahuna]

I would third asking her dad for her hand in marraige. My father in law definately appreciated it.

I would buy her a smaller present, possibly some thing to complement the ring - matching necklace or earrings.

I would also aske her in private and try to suprise her as you might get the reaction I did:

"You are Bad, you are bad" repeated a number of times, follwed by smiling through tears, followed by hitting me, followed by more crying, followed by "You are Bad, you are bad", followed by more crying, more are you serious, you are serious, OMG, yes, are you serious?" you get the picture.

Could have been a tad embarasisng in a nice dining eshtablishment!

Good luck though mate - I was nervouse for days before.