Advice please women are probably the best to answer

[big_si]

Originally Posted by rustferret

A word of advice from a farther who’s daughter got engaged lest year, to be married next year.
ASK HER FARTHER FOR HER HAND IN MARRAGE. (can be before or after you ask her) Call me old fashioned but you will get shit loads of brownie points with your in laws to be.
Good luck hope she says yes.
Rustferret

Exactly what I did. Suited and booted. I was crapping myself all the way to their house... The last section of road I was just saying "shit! shit! shit! shit! shit! shit! shit! shit!"

All turned out well though. They really appreciated me asking

[Ian@1904]

Asking future Dad in Law works wonders. He was very surprised. My MIL always expects wife to run around after me. Wife has opinions on this.

Wifes engagement ring has a zircon stone, not diamond shsh-wife knows, cos we were skint at the time. The money was used on the house deposit. Wife is currently on third set of pearls-the last set cost a months salary for most people.

Marriage need not end your love life. I have been with my beloved for 26 years. After last night I am surprised I had the energy to go diving this morning.

A successful relationship takes hard work. A really successful relationship is when your wife offers to buy you rebreather for Christmas, as mine did this year. Yup, and the VR3.

Oh and for the jackpot. Get a church wedding and get her to the "Obey" thing with you "worshiping". V hard work and apparently old fashioned. If you met my v bossy wife you would be stunned to learn that she did the "obey" bit-quite a laugh during the wedding ceremony. Talk about stunned silence.

Best of luck

[pieater]

Steve, Steve, Steve... finished knicking that platform yet? You're the first diver to go spidging before it's sunk...then again, you are a member of the scouse republic.

Why not get her something she'll really appreciate like:

• Plastic surgery (performed on you)
• A nice long break (away from you)
• a big stick (to hit you with)

You know it makes sense. plus...it'll be cheaper for you in the long run.

Can you recall those nice weekends you could escape on to go diving? Well, hang on to those memories mate, 'cos they won't get replaced anytime soon

Mind you, if she says "yes" then we might be able to get it annulled later on the grounds of her insanity at the time.

[hilrosepaul]

Never met my father in law (he passed away before I met SWMBO), so I went round to see the future MIL in advance and let her in on the 'secret'.

This was really appreciated, and now the MIL loves me to bits and won't have a word said against me.

As for a present, I'd go along with something small and jokey to lighten the mood, followed by the biggie.

Good Luck

[Sparky750]

I have considered asking her parents but lets say we have never exactly seen eye to eye infact in 5 years i've spent a total of 3 hours in their company to cut a long story short when we first met they didn't like me at all for no apparent reason that we've ever found out ( i know most people may agree with them ) when i was younger (16-18 ) i had quite a reputation not fully deserved but maybe a bit the only thing i could ever think of was her dad had asked around about me and asked the wrong people. It got to a point where i decided fcuk them it's now turned full cycle they're overly nice to me and i'm in different so not the best people to have the conversation with. I was considering ways to have the wedding without them there So i'll mull that one over for a day or so i'm quite traditional in that i'd like to ask but given the way things have been i'm not sure.

Thanks for all the well wishes and advice folks and thanks to the p*ss takers for making me laugh

[annatrnr]

Maybe this is what they need to see how wrong they were about you. If you intend to spend the rest of your life with her at least you can be magnanimuse (sp!) in saying that you were the first to try and bury the hatchet (not in MorFIL!) If intended Mrs is only 30 they are going to be on the edges of your life for a long time yet!

[Sparky750]

Originally Posted by annatrnr

Maybe this is what they need to see how wrong they were about you. If you intend to spend the rest of your life with her at least you can be magnanimuse (sp!) in saying that you were the first to try and bury the hatchet (not in MorFIL!) If intended Mrs is only 30 they are going to be on the edges of your life for a long time yet!

They where my thoughts although i did try back in the early days but i suppose it's the right thing to do.

[annatrnr]

"You know it makes sense" in best Peckham accent x

[weazelz]

I found this at the deep hydrobox at Stoney last weekend:



I'd be intrigued to know if it was for real or not

[Steve Summers]

Originally Posted by weazelz

I found this at the deep hydrobox at Stoney last weekend:



I'd be intrigued to know if it was for real or not

Did you see the laminated ''fcuk off'' down there with it? we did wonder if that was the answer

Steve, thinking about it and considering your location you'd be better to get her a prezzie as well as she'll assume you've nicked the ring

Calm down, calm down

Safe diving,
Steve