What do you do when your Buddy calls &cancels when you've already arrived at the lake

[MJH]

Buddy not turning up/cancelling at the last minute happens to all of us from time to time - what I don't understand is why the bigger inland sites don't have a billy no mates corner where divers who've been stood up can find someone else in the same predicament...

Whatever else, going home and doing housework is not an alternative to be considered.

Ever.

The staff at Wraysbury try very hard to find a buddy anyone who turns up there alone wanting to dive.

Dave or Jack are normally both happy to help

Did you try asking?

I was there today - must have missed you somehow

[Arfie]

Being a woman, you could have employed the "tears" card.

Sit by the waters edge crying until someone asks you whats wrong then when you've got them hooked tell tham that you have been let down and you were so looking forward to diving this puddle but now with no buddy you can;t and you are too scared to ask. Likelyhood is some sap of a man would either offer to dive with you or go and ask other divers if you could join them.

I generally tend to travel to the dive site with my buddy, so not a problem I have.

Arfie

[Venus]

Hi MJH

I was with Arthur when the call came through and he did suggest asking around,
and, Jack knew when he gave me my entry fee back

But really, there were not that many people around at 9am
A few couples, a group of very techie/ scarey looking divers and that group of three I did speak with

I got to the lake at 8.45 and was gone by 9.15 so I guess I missed you

I was just wondering what other people would have done in my situation
I like Arfie's recommendation the best

Being a woman, you could have employed the "tears" card.

Sit by the waters edge crying until someone asks you whats wrong then when you've got them hooked tell tham that you have been let down and you were so looking forward to diving this puddle but now with no buddy you can;t and you are too scared to ask. Likelyhood is some sap of a man would either offer to dive with you or go and ask other divers if you could join them.

[big_si]

Today I was due to dive with a lovely chap I’d met at Wraysbury a few weeks ago, we met for coffee, talked about going on holiday together …… no it wasn’t Si!

My my, people will talk
I AM a lovely chap though

I reached the lake sorted out my cylinders, paid my fees and received a call telling me that he could not make it

So, what do you do ……

1) wander round chatting to people hoping to make a new friend/ future buddy
I live a very sheltered life in my village and don’t make friends very easily

2) go round asking people if they would mind if I joined them
I’m rather shy and would find this very difficult

3) get a cup of tea and watch people kit up and write a longer list of things to buy at LIDS
I don’t drink tea and already have a long shopping list for LIDS

4) go home and do the vacuuming
yes, this is exactly what I did

5) anything else

Venus

To be honest I'd have probably just gone home again if I lived as close as you. If I lived as close as me I'd have hung around a bit longer and see if I could dump myself on some poor unsuspecting fool Hoovering wouldn't have come into the equation!

[Venus]

Hi Ken

How are you and the lovely J

I am shy ....
How much of me did you actually see for those 16 days?

The answer to that question isn't 'not as much as I would have seen if the weather was better and the girls actually wore bikinis'

Shy!!!! Dont make me

[Letz]

Jack knew when he gave me my entry fee back

and Wraysbury are very good about that
Btw, Jack is looking very well and how amazing is the fit of hired drysuits at Wraysbury.

My my, people will talk
I AM a lovely chap though

I'm afraid I must agree with copious nodding
So, line up for the Big Si fan club. There's plenty of him to go round

[Fiona]

and the girls actually wore bikinis'

I hadn't realised you went all the way to the Galapagos just for a bikini.

I guess the degree of shyness must vary depending on the location.

[Letz]

I hadn't realised you went all the way to the Galapagos just for a bikini.
I guess the degree of shyness must vary depending on the location.

I think the extent of any shyness very much depends on circumstances and the company. I can see how sunshine would make a shy person feel more comfortable. It certainly seems to bring out the best in people, lots of smiles and therefore the chances of a more positive response from strangers or those we don't know very well.
I most definitely feel more confident when I am feeling happy and surrounded by positive people

[Finless]

I hadn't realised you went all the way to the Galapagos just for a bikini.

I guess the degree of shyness must vary depending on the location.

And the people. Women I know (as friends) are happy to put their bare chesticles on display in front of strangers on holiday but not when I'm around. Where is the logic in that? In fact, f*ck logic, where is the fairness in that?

ps: And, yes, I always drool and pant like that when I'm on a 'holiday beach'. It's not my fault. I don't go on holiday very often and rarely get onto a hot and sunny beaches. I like hot sunny beaches. Where is the shame in that?

[Letz]

And the people. Women I know (as friends) are happy to put their bare chesticles on display in front of strangers on holiday but not when I'm around. Where is the logic in that? In fact, f*ck logic, where is the fairness in that?

ps: And, yes, I always drool and pant like that when I'm on a 'holiday beach'. It's not my fault. I don't go on holiday very often and rarely get onto a hot and sunny beaches. I like hot sunny beaches. Where is the shame in that?

Which day are you at LIDS Finless ?



What exactly are you looking at .... ?




PS. We think you're just a lovely cutey pie