[frosty the snowman]

the BT explorer has pretty good parental controls on it. My son can only access websites I 'allow' and I get a report telling me which ones he has accessed. It does get tedious though haivng to password every new site, but he hasn't tried the adult sites yet. No doubt he will in a couple of years.

Good luck sorting it out, Kate

Quite. There's always some way to 'experiment.' Of course tinternet wasn't invented in our day so we spent ages looking up rude words in the dictionary. Or was that just me?:embarassed:

 

[Digger]

Kate,

Forward them on to me and I'll have a look at them and tell you how bad it all is. :wink:

Angus, I think you'll find there's a queue. Frosty seems to be nearest the front, and I'm sitting in second, you might get a look in third. And only if the sites get past filter 1 and filter 2 then you'll get to see them. So basically if they've got dogs and horses in them you might get a nosey, but otherwise you can save your hard drive.

Digs.

 

[Angus]

So basically if they've got dogs and horses in them you might get a nosey, but otherwise you can save your hard drive.

Digs.

I take that they are the ones you starred in so can give immediate judgement on them!

 

[Digger]

I take that they are the ones you starred in so can give immediate judgement on them!

My dim and distant past is well documented on the internet. Just search for felching in google. It's on page 367,302

That and the picture of me in a pair of animal print pants. But I wasn't the one dancing with a transexual Iraqi belly dancer with a gunshot wound. I never thought I'd type that sentence.

Digs.

 

[JamesW]

Hi to you all. I've not been around for ages. Lot's has been going on......

Anyway, something rather bad has happened and I need to find out if when you look at your internet history, is there any way of finding out the time in which sites are looked at?

The way ours works is, click on GO (at the top of the page) then select HISTORY, we have ours set up so that you can see what has been looked at day by day and then week by week.

In a nut shell, it looks like Richard's 12 year old has accessed some VERY naughty websites and we need to confront him with as much evidence as we can.

Before anyone sugests that it could have been Richard, he's not thick enough to leave the 'evidence' lying around for me to find, he would have deleted the history. His son hasn't got a clue how to do that. Besides, his reaction to me telling him wasn't that of someone who had been 'caught'.

Thanks if you can help!!

My wife caught me looking at porn I told her bloody spam
Only joking
:angel: :teeth: :angel:

 

[yazzyfooty]

KAte
The way I monitor the websites my patients use is to go to Control Panel, Internet Options, then where it says browsing history, click settings, then click view objects........it has time and date.

 

[the goat]

Just tell him he ll go blind
Worked for me and Stevie Wonder

 

[XeN]

Hi Kate,

If it's just browsing history you want then do the following :-

1. Start up Mozilla Firefox
2. Click on History -> Show in Sidebar from the top drop down menus.

You should now be able to see your viewing history on the left hand side of the page.

If it's something a bit more sophiscticated you're after the try Google Desktop.

Link Here

It does a full search on your PC and can show your browsing history and MUCH more :angel:

 

[722]

But I wasn't the one dancing with a transexual Iraqi belly dancer with a gunshot wound. I never thought I'd type that sentence.

Digs.

Was it Angus or Howard? An interesting night that was.

 

[Angus]

Was it Angus or Howard? An interesting night that was.

We were doing our bit for international diplomacy, merely trying to make amends for the 'nearly departed' Blair etc!

 

[722]

We were doing our bit for international diplomacy, merely trying to make amends for the 'nearly departed' Blair etc!

Now if you had said 'international relations', I would have believed you!

 

[4823]

I have some software which I bought that tells you the exact keystrokes used, what time, which user. It also takes screenshots of any sites that trigger the content filter.

The kids know the software is on the computer and they know that there are no restrictions (ie the software won't block it out) but they know that I get to hear about everything.

Personally I have no problems with my son viewing basic level porn when he's 12. I started at 10 and it doesn't seem to have done me any harm.....although I am quite blind! I did however get the "it teaches you the wrong things about love" lecture. My response was.....so how come it was in your video collection? The response "looking after it for a friend" didn't hold much water.

Obviously if it's kids or animal related stuff then I'd be furious with him....but if it's two (or more) consenting adults then I don't see the harm.


PS If he wants to trade anything then i have stacks of the stuff coat on

 

[Digger]

think it would depend a great deal on the sites. At 12 I think it's more than enough to see the odd boob here and there, there's Page 3 if he's that curious, no-one's going to stop him buying the Sun. But I do think kids can come out with a slightly warped view of what's normal looking through the internet, as opposed to the magazines of old.

I just rely on popup windows to control what anyone's looking at on the PC. If you come back and you can't read a few pages of YD for popups then someone's been at the porn again.

Digs.

 

[19696]

this is worrying. i agree with Digger.

think it would depend a great deal on the sites. At 12 I think it's more than enough to see the odd boob here and there, there's Page 3 if he's that curious, no-one's going to stop him buying the Sun. But I do think kids can come out with a slightly warped view of what's normal looking through the internet, as opposed to the magazines of old.

There is the issue not only of what could be regarded as 'normal' but also how boys are influenced as to how they treat women as they get older. If i had a choice, i would prefer mine look at magazines than internet.

 

[4823]

think it would depend a great deal on the sites. At 12 I think it's more than enough to see the odd boob here and there, there's Page 3 if he's that curious, no-one's going to stop him buying the Sun. But I do think kids can come out with a slightly warped view of what's normal looking through the internet, as opposed to the magazines of old.

Have to say that when I were a nipper it was magazines and videos. Most of the stuff out there on the interweb is fairly tame....same with magazines and vids....if you wanted to find something in particualt it was never that difficult. The thing to watch out for are FTP/Bit Torrent programs like Kazaa and Limewire. There is little control over the content and (aside from the obvious copyright issues) you can easily download something that is not legal.

I just rely on popup windows to control what anyone's looking at on the PC. If you come back and you can't read a few pages of YD for popups then someone's been at the porn again.

Digs.

That's where the old pop-up blocker, firewall and up to date virus software comes in handy

 

[intothebigblue]

There are programs you can purchase online, Net Nanny always scores highly and is about £18, I think.

The program works alongside the browser and has an extensive list of known porn URLs in it's database (which is regularly updated, just like your anti-virus). Any attempt to open one of the listed sites will fail.

As an aside, I'm gobsmacked that the kid didn't find the 'Clear Private Data' option, in which case you'd be none the wiser.

 

[MRBLUESKY]

Hi,

Just my 2p worth, but....

I don't personally think you should be getting that bothered about this and perhaps more imoprtantly, need to be careful how you deal with it (if you haven't already).

When I was about 13 / 14 my mum found my stash of porn. She made me go out into the garden and burn it. I now look at porn on the interweb and am not ashamed of the fact. She didn't stop me, or even reduce my interest in it. All that really happened is that I learned to not get caught and it took me longer to build a decent collection.

So I have been looking at porn of various kinds for the best part of 30 years, I am in a stable relationship, we are engaged and I have never treated anyone with any less respect than they deserve. I like and respect people in general and women especially as I was brought up in a very matriarchal family.

also remember that this has been going on forever, ever since Adam caught a sneaky look at Eve putting on her figleaves!

The main thing is that he is brought up in an environment that encourages respect for others in all aspects of life.

As has been said before, looking at "normal porn" on the web is nothing special, but again if it is anything too dodgy, then just have an adult chat with him. At 12 years old he knows more than you think, and probably a lot more than you would like to think he does.

I just believe that you won't stop it and so maybe the best approach is to make sure he understands what he is doing and why.

Don't take the easy option of fooling yourself into thinking this will stop, he'll just learn better how to hide it from you, and I'm sure there are plenty of mates at school who can tell him how or have PCs that are not monitored by their parents. Do you want him to do this in someone elses house? where you have even less control?

As I said, this is just my opinion, and good luck whatever you do.

Andy

 

[principia]

The program works alongside the browser and has an extensive list of known porn URLs in it's database

Now that is a useful database.

J.

 

[722]

Just as an aside to this, what right to privacy does a child have? Could be even more complicated in Kate's case as she is not one of the child's parents.

Adrian